Today I am 27 years, 4 months, and 15 days old. Or in other words, I have been alive for 10,000 days. Over the past few weeks I have been jotting down a few words of wisdom I have received over my time here on earth. Truthfully, it isn’t meant for anything other than a reflection as I sit here and write. So take it for what ever you want, I’m just honored you are spending a moment reading my words and advice from a few people that have changed my perspective on life.
While listening to Joe Rogan’s podcast one night it truly hit me, there is no plan B. Travis Barker, the amazingly talented drummer from Blink 182, gave some of the best advice I have ever heard. When you have a plan B you are doubting yourself. You are telling the Universe you are unworthy and undeserving of plan A. Claim plan A. Capture it, hold it in your heart, and release all doubt. But don’t forget to be flexible. Travis’s plan A was to create music. He didn’t care how, he just wanted to play. He told the story of couch surfing, playing at bars and low paying gigs - but he was living his plan A. He was doing what he loved. The Universe knew he was deserving, he owned it, he followed his dream which eventually lead to playing in sold out arenas. I’m not saying to quit your job and join a rock band, but what I am saying is to follow your passions and dreams. Life is WAY too short to not spend it doing what you love.
Which brings me to my next advice, also from another musician. I’ve never had music speak to me the way Arizona’s (the band, not the state) does. While at their most recent concert in Arizona (the state, not the band) Zach Hannah stopped the show for a few words of wisdom. I can’t remember it exactly, but it was something along the lines of, “If you aren’t doing what you love with people you love you are wasting your time.” Chills, right? It seems so simple. Most of us are guilty of slaving away at jobs we hate with coworkers we don’t like. Life isn’t meant to be lived that way. If you don’t like where you are or who you are with, change it.
This one has been stuck in my head over the past few weeks - take the vacation you can't afford. Now before you freak out, I don't mean put yourself into crazy amounts of debt or drain your savings account. I mean, take the vacation. Marc and I haven't taken a vacation together since our honeymoon nearly four and a half years ago. We had the opportunity to spend an extra day in California while I was working in Disneyland and we made the decision to stay and enjoy it. Financially, could we have put that money towards an extra car payment? Sure. But life is short. If today were my last day on earth would I rather have spent that money on an amazing day with my husband or being a month ahead on my bills? You better believe I would choose Disneyland all over again. And that part about not being able to afford it? We did. When you put positive energy out into the Universe, you attract positive energy. I was able to book enough work to completely cover our trip, and then some.
Be unapologetically yourself. For too long I have spent worrying about what others think. I put too much effort into toxic relationships. I invested too much of myself by overcommitting. At the age of 27 I am finally learning it is okay to set boundaries and say no to others. Learn to say yes to yourself. Learn to rock the bold sweaters. Learn to take time for yourself. Learn to enjoy coffee dates alone.
There is no set timeline. I am 27, childless, degree-less, I don’t own a home, I have been married twice. Yet I couldn’t be happier with where I am in life. After a not so good relationship I found my person. Life is a series of choices. We make mistakes, life moves on, we learn, and we grow. Don't stress if you aren't where you think you should be. The Universe has a plan for you, and I promise, you are exactly where you are meant to be.
Mental illness is real and it is okay to ask for help. For nearly a year I masked my depression and anxiety. On the outside, I was living a glorious life. My social media accounts were filled with smiles. But on the inside, I was miserable. With the loving support of my family I finally decided it was time to get help. While it isn’t the solution for everyone, medication changed my life and I’m not ashamed of it for a second.
The French tuck can make any outfit more mature. Seriously, Tan France knows what’s up. Don’t believe me? Next time you throw on shorts and a T-shirt, tuck the front. Damn, look how classy you look! Want to take it a glamorous step further? Add a belt!